So, after all that rambling, what do I think Love is? It’s oddly, unexpectedly simple — almost startlingly so. I could puff it up with more verbiage… but if that’s what we want, we can turn to media for that. “But there is such a thing as genuine love, which is always considerate. Its distinguishing…
Helping Love “Because where there is no courage, there is no love: Love demands honesty, which is frightening, or it is only pretense. It demands vulnerability, or it is hollow. It engages our deepest power, or it lacks force. It brings us to confront sorrow, loss, and death.” — Starhawk, The Spiral Dance Be honest!…
“Traditional” marriage is supposed to express love also, from what I’ve read. However, I suspect those who believe this haven’t actually read the religious texts describing what they believe traditional marriage is. Marriage in the Old Testament isn’t the loving union of a man and a woman. It’s the union of a man and a…
Originally posted February 2004 Credits: Thanks to the myriad folks I’ve known through my life, and (for varying reasons) to Barry, Guthrum, Carl, George, Ian, Lou, especially Bob… and life in general, for this article. Random thoughts in the traditional month of Love… Some time ago I tried defining love, in discussion with some folks…
Conclusions Gathering together all the ramblings and data we’ve gone through so far, we can now hopefully reach some useful insights on dealing with issues such as these (Note: please consider the pronoun ‘you’ to be a general reference term for myself and any readers): First, let’s state the goals for which we performed this…
The previous post related just a few examples I’ve personally experienced, of course. I’m sure there are many more psychological avoidance techniques which can be bent to their cause: to always get their way. If there are problems in their lives, it simply must be someone else’s fault — never their own. If there are…
What’s been written before is all fine and good, but these examples are also pretty clear-cut. Let’s try a slightly more ambiguous real-life situation. What do you say when someone asks you the dreaded question: “Does this make me look fat?” A personal belief I feel needs saying: anyone who is foolish enough to ask…
Parameters of the Experiment What are the real-life situations I’ve been involved in, where the reality of falsehood impacts violently with the potential for honesty? So far I’ve seen two issues, which have appeared repeatedly and in varying forms. One of them got me started on this line of thought, as it was very obvious…
Originally posted January 2004 Thanks to Bob, Lou, George, Eric, & Ian, who helped make this a better article. I also extend an (admittedly somewhat grudging) ‘thank you’ to life in general — were I not exposed to the bad as well as the good, I would not be able to try constantly to improve…
Originally written December 2003: more of a grumble than usual… As you probably don’t know, by profession I am a web site designer. I take pride in my work, as I assume most competent craftspeople do. However, recently I’ve had the most incredible frustration in my job — on this very web site! — due…